The Authentic Work of Gratitude
November always reminds us of gratitude. It’s the season of giving thanks, of writing down blessings, of gathering with family and friends around a table. But gratitude isn’t only about giving—it’s also about the deeper work of receiving.
True gratitude requires authenticity. It goes beyond polite “thank-yous” or performative gestures. It asks us to notice the intention behind the gift, the effort behind the action, the growth behind the struggle. It also asks us to lay down our ego—to not dismiss compliments, downplay support, or shrug off encouragement.
So how do we give and receive gratitude in a way that’s real, free of ego, and rooted in progress?
Pause Long Enough to See It
Gratitude is often missed because we rush past it. Slow down enough to recognize the moments—big and small—that deserve acknowledgement.
Name the Specifics
True gratitude isn’t vague. Instead of “thanks for your help,” try: “I’m grateful for the way you stayed late to make sure this was finished. That meant a lot.” Specificity makes gratitude feel seen.
Receive Without Deflecting
How often do we brush off a compliment with, “Oh, it was nothing”? Receiving gratitude well means allowing others’ words to land. Accepting thanks is also a way of honoring the giver.
Link Gratitude to Growth
Gratitude shouldn’t just end at “thank you”—it can be a springboard for progress. For example: “I’m grateful for your feedback, it helped me refine this project.” Gratitude becomes powerful when it fuels the next step forward.
Express Gratitude in Action
Sometimes words aren’t enough. Gratitude can look like paying it forward, extending kindness, or showing up consistently. When gratitude drives action, it leaves a lasting imprint.
In its truest form, gratitude is a two-way practice. It’s giving thanks with sincerity and receiving thanks with humility. When we strip away ego, gratitude becomes not just a seasonal practice but a way of living—one that grounds us in authenticity and propels us toward progress.
TISM Connect Reflection Prompt:
This November, ask yourself: Where can I practice gratitude more authentically? Am I giving thanks with specificity, and receiving it without ego? And most importantly, how can my gratitude fuel growth—for me and for those around me?